Toward a More Loving and Caring World
NEW KNOWLEDGE TO DEVELOP A STRONGER SENSE OF HUMANITY IN OUR PERSONAL AND POLITICAL LIVES
In a world that seems to be topsy-turvy, my wife, Jean, and I needed to remind ourselves of our participation in and contribution to a common human destiny that is more loving and caring. So we wrote a poem together:
Look for Beauty in all things,
Expect Love at all time,
Give from the Heart,
Be grateful for Life itself,
It proved to be especially important to us as a sort of mantra not only to maintain our optimism about life but also to express our gratitude. With Jean's help and guidance, I wrote a book based on my 25 years as a private practitioner in family and child therapy and community development. It is entitled:
TOWARD A MORE LOVING AND CARING WORLD
It was the main theme of the development of this site and it is still available through McNally's Bookstore or as an ebook from this site.
My wife, Jean, became terminally ill. As it turned out, my wife was home in palliative care for the last nine months of her life. She was 86 and dying of heart failure. She was in a great deal of pain as she was unable to have a hip operation five years earlier and the condition was only worsening. Before leaving the hospital to be cared for at home, she requested that she be interviewed to see whether she qualified for Medical Assistance in Dying. She qualified. It was, as she called it, her "ace in the hole."
On December 23, 2017, at home and with her family and close friends around her, she accepted medical assistance in dying and was able to celebrate her death with the same enthusiastic sense of spirituality that she lived her life. I am dedicating this site to her. She left a legacy of love . My family and I have written a book in her honor and to make her very inspirational comments about life as an ongoing process available on the internet. It's called:
THE POWER OF LOVE’S CONNECTIVITY: A CASE STUDY OF MEDICAL ASSISTANCE IN DYING
Simply google Amazon.com (not available on Amazon.ca as yet) and search for it by author's name "Don Ayre"or search for it by a shortend version of the books name "Love's Connectivity." There is a Kindle eBook version that is immediately available or if you prefer, there is a paperback version by print on demand that can be delivered within 3 days of ordering it.
ABOUT THE BOOK: In February 2015, the Supreme Court of Canada ruled that it would no longer be a criminal offence in Canada for physicians to assist someone to end their life under certain conditions. On June 17, 2016, the Federal Government passed legislation that detail the circumstance in which a person may be eligible for an assisted death.
In February of 2017, Jean Ayre applied for medical assistance in dying and was interviewed by two teams of clinicians to ascertain whether she was eligible. She was. At the time, she was in the hospital with a heart failure. The diagnosis was terminal. Add to this, she had been unable to have a hip operation due to her heart and she was in a great deal of pain.
She was released into Palliative Care at home. But by December of 2017, her heart condition had worsened and her body was no longer responding to the pain control medications as hoped. She opted for medical assistance in dying. The procedure was carried out by the clinical team of MAID in her apartment with her husband, Don, at her side and her family and close friends connected emotionally and spiritually as a circle of love.
ABOUT THE AUTHORS: This is first and foremost, an autobiographical love story. But it is also a user’s case study of a very new and revolutionary system of medical services: 1) Palliative Care 2) Dignity Therapy 3) Medical Assistance in Dying and 4) Dying with Dignity.
Jean Ayre wrote her own obituary and planned her own Celebration of Life with the intent of helping others enjoy and be grateful for life in the face of death by becoming more familiar with the notion of dying with dignity. Her words are central to this book.
Don Ayre has put Jean’s words into the context of the new and revolutionary practices that are challenging today’s medical professionals…and us. In the very real sense that this book is based on their mutual experience and love, it is co-authored.
Jean assisted in the writing of Toward a More Loving and Caring World previously featured on this site. TOWARD A MORE LOVING AND CARING WORLD is still available on this site. Simply click on the button BUY THE BOOK included in the section below on the launch held a few years ago at McNally's Book Store.