Toward a More Loving and Caring World

Through the years that I was in private practice as a child and family therapists, I began to notice something in my dialogue with children and their families:  Whereas life is a four dimensional process - Physical, Intellectual, Emotional and Spiritual, my clients were trying to live it three-dimensionally and were feeling unfulfilled. They were anxious and ill-at-ease within themselves and at odds with one another because their outer success was not leading them toward inner happiness.

I began to realize that what we are all trying to find is a balance of these four dimensions, a wholeness.  Therapy is essentially a dialogue where two or more people work at this balance together and learn from one another within the context of family or society - indeed, within the context of humanity itself.  For however long or short therapy takes and whether it is accomplished formally or informally, we establish relationships with kindred spirits with whom we can unravel our lives and get them back on course.  It's the most basic kind of love.  The key is  a mutual awareness of the innate sense of self that is seeking to find expression in the world in which we both find ourselves, therapists and their clients.  It's a matter of finding a balance between our spirituality growth versus our personality development.

Today, it's a bit more complicated.  Our humanity as a whole is caught up in a rapid process of globalization.  It's the result of our burgeoning world population. Whereas this new process has come into being to unite an otherwise disjointed world, it's also scrambling our life experiences. Even with the assistance of today's ever-advancing technology, the balancing of the four dimension of lives and sense of wholeness is becoming increasingly difficult.

Instead of a world that is loving and caring, we are beginning to build a diversity of global socioeconomic platforms that fighting for superiority and that are breeding greed and fear.  As individuals, we need to be constantly be asking ourselves Who am I? What’s it all about? Where do I fit in? and Why are we here?  These questions are deep rooted in our innermost sense of self and need to be kept uppermost by our constant question.  As societies, we need to be providing freedom for questioning of individuals and encourage their looking toward a balanced sense of diversity, unity, purpose and meaning in life.  As individuals, we need to be seeking opportunities for dialogue that opens us up to a renewed sense of peace and wonderment.  We need a more therapeutic and healing attitude toward ourselves and others based not only on what we know by way of psychology and sociology but also theology and cosmology; based on life's four dimensionality.

I had intended 'Toward a More Loving and Caring World' as a summing up of my learning through dialogue with children and families through 25 years of private practice and through consultations with various communities  in the development of educational programs for youth.  As I wrote it, I realized that it could serve as an uplifting new book to guide others  - kindred spirits -  wanting to unleash their spirituality and quash the anxiety attributed to globalization.  Together, we can create a world that is more loving for all.  Seems ambitious.  But I as I began to write less for myself and more as a reaching out to others, I began to hope that I could readers to develop a new sense of integrated awareness of the four realities, and give new direction and meaning to how they participate individually in the creation of a global community; including how to collectively make best use of its gift of new technology.  I believe it to be an important book for parents and educators but it directly affects the Now generation who are caught between the two processes of globalization and computerization.  But more importantly, I realize that I am reaching out to other people like myself who are wanting to share their experiences of an inner divinity and a oneness with life.  Together, we can build a better tomorrow. 

‘Toward a More Loving and Caring World’ therefore is a unique combination of research from biology, psychology, sociology and even theology. It had to be as we are four dimensional:  body, mind, heart and spirit. I discovered in private practice as a family and child therapist that when we have a more balanced awareness of life as a four dimensional process that integrates the material, intellectual, emotional and spiritual realms of our growth and development, we are happier as individuals…and we contribute more successfully to the lives of others.  

I invite readers to explore different methods of participating in this kind of questioning.  There is an urgency today. We are going through a process of globalization that is putting enormous pressure on us to change. The more we are open in mind and heart to our common human destiny, the more likely we are to create a more loving and caring world.  To do this, we need to generate a stronger sense of Universal Love – love of self, love of others, love of society, and love of humanity – all within the context of an awareness of our Cosmic Reality.  That’s what continuously asking ourselves life’s four most basic questions is all about.   

While globalization brings an enormous potential a more integrated and fulfilling lifestyle based on our common human destiny, its new demands for integration also are causing confusion and anxiety. But by repeating the four fundamental questions of life (who, what, where, why), we can foster a new sense of wholeness within ourselves and in our relationships with our family, our society and humanity-at-large. 

It all comes down to increasing our effectiveness as global citizens and making us happier in our personal lives. Globalization is going to change our world for the better – I know it; we just need to approach it the right way.  In today's world, psychologists are calling it Mindfulness; theologians are calling it Soulfulness.  We need both - an expanded awareness of ego and more open notion of soul.

In short, we need to be more aware of an overall balance of all four levels of our existence:





By choosing to be more loving and caring, we can have insights into an integrated awareness of these four realities that will give new direction and meaning to how we can participate individually in the creation of a global community and to how we can make more effective use of the enormous gift of an ever-advancing technology that comes with it. We know these dimensions in a more loving and caring context as as  MINDFULNESS, SOULFULNESS, PEACEFULNESS and BLISSFULNESS.  Could these be the four cornerstones of tomorrow's world?  Quite possibly.  But it's up to us.

I invite your comments and have included a section entitled CONTACT in this website for this purpose.  I will provide a free PDF version of Toward a More Loving and Caring Purpose to any kindred spirit who contacts me and contributes their thoughts and ideas for a more loving and caring world.

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A Huge Success

After an informative introduction by his friend, neighbour and colleague, Paul Kroeker, Don Ayre addressed a large audience with excerpts, acknowledgements and personal reflections about his experiences writing Toward a More Loving and Caring World.

Update: Toward a More Loving and Caring World makes Winnipeg Best Seller List


Teacher, Therapist, Author

Don Ayre

Don Ayre

Don Ayre studied family and child therapy at the University of Manitoba, the University of Chicago and the University of Pittsburgh. He worked for the Manitoba Department of Social Services and the Winnipeg Child Guidance Clinic before accepting the position of Director of Research for Pittsburgh Family and Children's Services.

He returned to Winnipeg to teach at the University of Manitoba. Later he went into private practice as a therapist and educational consultant to businesses and government agencies interested in team building.

The ongoing global unrest and violence so prevalent today prompted him to write Toward a More Loving and Caring World.